. How to Write a Eulogy: The 5 Step Template Step 1: pick an hour Decide on a date, time, and place. Stressful things like death make our brains mush. We have trouble concentrating and thinking clearly. To write a eulogy, you will need to set aside the time.Set. It. Aside. Now. STEP 2: the voice Select tone and style. Were they quiet, religious, or known for their inappropriate jokes? If you can’t decide, weren’t very close, or had a difficult relationship with them, use your own writing style or voice. Voice. Tone. Style. STEP 3: Tell A STORY Did they tell a story over and over again? This can be any story… adventure, loss, fear. Is there a story others tell about this person? Is there a really special memory you have? Tell. The. Story. Step 4: their essence You’ve told them THE story. Now, interpret it for them by describing the person’s admirable characteristics. Did they have a sense of adventure or kind spirit? What did you learn from them? STEP 5: Offer comfort Is there a quote that can offer comfort to those left behind? If the eulogy style is humorous, consider telling a joke. Express gratitude to the audience. You. Did. It.